Fireworks marking precedented celebrations to welcome new year dominated the night. Yes! Most people ushered the new year in unmatched joviality and happiness. It has always been usual and it will always be so. People usher a new year with great expectations, rejuvenated mood and hilarious resolutions. All these have become more of a norm rather than an exception. I say this because majority tend to forget or rather give up on all the resolutions they had faster than it’s imaginable.
Before I indulge deeper into new year, let me take a reflection into 2018 because that is what my post is about. Despite the happiness, cheers and joviality that welcomed the new year, most people are burdened. They are carrying the heavy loads of frustrations from 2018. We simply fake happiness because we have perfected the art of masking things.
The greatest source of frustration as a new year begins is the art of unforgiveness. As you associate with people throughout the year, there’s a tendency that you’ll be wronged severally. It’s normal. It’s the human nature! Friends and relatives will fail you, perhaps betray you where you least expected. These wrongs range from sour relationships, unkept promises, mistrust, personal misunderstandings among a myriad of others.
Only few individuals possess the virtue of forgiveness. Majority of us tend to carry the anger and resentment of wrong things done to us. The resentment steals your happiness. Every moment you think of whoever wronged you tend to feel distressed and angered. This anger haunt you and prevents you from focusing more your future. You rather become servile to your past. Your new resolutions are imprisoned into the past. That’s how people find themselves at the end of the year with unfulfilled resolutions, hopeless and frustrated. The vicious cycle of resentment begins again. The more you hold unto it, the more damaged you get!
I know forgiving someone is not easy. But not forgiving someone also will affect you more than him/her. Carrying grudges is a toxic habit that kills your personality slowly. You better learn how to forgive others despite how much they wronged you. Forgiveness makes you free from anger and resentment and ultimately making you happy. On the flip side, it makes the person who wronged you judge him/herself, probably feel offended and sorry.
People think forgiveness is an act of weakness. It’s not. Actually it’s a sign of maturity and responsibility. It’s a virtue for strong people. People who can accept the fact that things are not right but life should continue as normal. People who can forget the past and focus on the future without grudges.
Learn to develop the art of forgiveness. Forgive and if possible forget. Let not the past imprison your future. The fact that someone betrayed should not justify your paranoia towards others. It’s irrational and harmful. The Caucasians says that it’s easy to trust a stranger because he hasn’t deceived you. Yes, it’s absolute truth. But, what if you trust him and he deceives you?? Will you hate yourself for falling a victim? Will you never trust someone else again because somebody else betrayed you in the past? That’s the power of forgiveness. You build your trust towards others despite the past betrayal. After all, not all people will always deceive you or wrong you. Maybe some wrong you unconsciously and therefore by forgiving them, you give them a chance to reflect on their mistakes and rectify.
Keep away from the chains of resentment by developing the art of forgiving others.
Meanwhile, let me not preach water and drink wine. If I wronged you this year, I sincerely ask for forgiveness. Whoever who wronged me, I forgive you and life move on smoothly.
Otherwise, I wish everybody reading this post a HAPPY NEW YEAR 2019. May It be an auspicious year decorated with prosperity. May God shower you with perpetual blessings. May it be a year of career breakthrough. Just do your best and trust God to fulfill your expectations.
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