Everybody has dreams, ambitions and aspirations in life. Aspirations to be successful and prosperous. Aspirations to live a happy life; a fulfilling life. Aspirations for self actualization and redemption from alleys of poverty. Who aspires to live a disillusioned life?? Hopelessness? Abject poverty? Yes! Nobody. Even pessimists have aspirations. Not of doom but of light. They have hope and expectations of positive things but seek refuge from presumably expected frustrations in their pessimistic belief.
Beyond all our aspirations and dreams, there are obstacles we must conquer to actualize these dreams. The most toxic obstacle you will always encounter is negativity. Negative is term that has bad connotations apart from medical jargon. You are HIV positive! I bet that’s the moment you realize the opposite of term negative is a nightmare. A horror particularly. But, that’s an exceptional case! Negativity is a worse disease than HIV. It’s toxic. It toment the mind and kills the dreams. It breaks the brave and captures the strong. It dilutes vehemence into laziness. It converts optimists into pessimists. It’s a killer
Then where does negativity creeps from into our lives? Well, there are many sources but majorly, it’s projected by people around us. By people I mean friends and relatives. Have you ever sat down and analyzed the kind of people you interact with? The value they add in your life? What impact do they have towards you goals on life? These are core questions that you should always question yourself. They should help you to choose the kind of people you interact and share your ideas with. There’s a famous saying that says “you are the sum total of you friends’ character.” Yes! I agree in totality. The people around determine your course. Your dreams and aspirations are not independent of environment you live in.
This leads me to talk about a category of people who always exist in our vicinity. They are always there as relatives or friends. These are people who are always NEGATIVE towards everything. They are frustrated creatures who believe in doom. They are killers of dreams. I happen to have come across a bunch of them. These are people who will critique all you decisions and moves. They see everything from a depression angle or rather negative perspective.
These are people who will be the first to advise you where they themselves failed. They are always there to discourage you from partaking any project. They will show all the difficulties that will accompany whatever you want to do. They actually support their arguments with logical facts and seemingly real case examples. Their great power lies in their persistence. These people are venomous. They have misled and killed the dreams of many people.
Learn to avoid negative people in your life. It’s better to lose a bunch of friends than kill your dreams. If it’s education, focus on it. Don’t listen to those mongrels telling you that education is useless nowadays. That’s according to them and you are not them. When you listen to them, they feed you with negative attitude. Negative attitude transforms into the fear of the unknown. The fear of failure. The fear that will never let you risk and pursue your worth. Don’t let negative vibrations suppress your vision.
It’s very painful to wake up in the morning full of energy and ideas but by sunset you are broken and hopeless. Your enthusiasm will have died within the course of the day as a result of interaction with negative people. They convert your vigour into stress and hopelessness.
It’s better to walk alone than walk with negative people. How happy is to associate with people who have same vision with you!
If you want to fly with eagles, don’t train with hens.